The following behaviours are signs both husbands and wives must observe and pay attention to in their relationship. If any of these behaviours occurs from one of the couple’s, then, it indicates that partner is taking his partner for granted. The offending partner is gradually building grudges and promoting ill feelings in the marital relationship.
1. YOU DON’T APOLOGIZE
If you care about your partner, it will hurt you when you hurt your partner. Doing wrong and not caring is a sign you take your partner for granted.
2. YOU DON’T FORGIVE
If you value your partner it will be easy to forgive, make up and get back to loving. The longer you allow a wrong to drag the more it shows you take your remorseful partner for granted and value more your pain. True partners hate fights, they reconcile quickly
3. YOU INSULT
You cannot hurl insults at someone you value
4. YOU MAKE FUN OF YOUR PARTNER
When you take your partner for granted you make him/her the subject of your jokes and make fun of your partner’s body, mistakes, shortcomings and thoughts without caring how much it hurts
5. YOU CONSTANTLY COME HOME LATE
If you deny your partner the most intimate moment of your time, constantly staying away from your own home to spend time with friends shows you take your partner for granted and detest your partner’s presence
6. YOU HEARTLESSLY BREAK PROMISES
If you go against your word and it’s not a big deal to you, you take your partner for granted
7. YOU DON’T LOOK YOUR SPOUSE IN THE EYE
One of the easiest ways we naturally behave when we despise our partner is suddenly avoiding eye contact showing that partner is not worthy of attention
8. YOU DON’T RETURN YOUR PARTNER’S MISSED PHONE CALLS
If you really cared to know what your partner wanted to say you would call back or make contact as soon as you can
9. YOU MOCK YOUR PARTNER IN PUBLIC
When we undervalue our partner we join the public in laughing at our partner
10. YOU DON’T BOTHER TO CHANGE
If you cared about your partner’s feelings you would change, become better and stop doing things that hurt or unsettle your partner
11. YOU FIND IT HARD TO SAY “I LOVE YOU”
Saying I love you is easy when the relationship is at its peak but as you progresively start to take your partner for granted you say I love you less, you find it difficult to say those three words or even don’t say them at all. Your partner tells you I love you and you don’t say it back
12. YOU ONLY PLEASE YOUR PARTNER WHEN YOU WANT SEX
If the only time you are good to your partner is when you want sex, then you’re taking your partner for granted and being an opportunist, using your partner to meet your sexual need
13. YOU NO LONGER MAKE TIME
When you find yourself avoiding your partner, or planning it that you spend less time with your partner, you are taking your partner for granted
14. YOU DON’T BOTHER ABOUT WHAT BOTHERS YOUR PARTNER
When you value your partner you are concerned about things that affect your partner, you care what your partner cares for
15. YOU NO LONGER SAY “THANK YOU”
You are taking your partner for granted if you are no longer grateful because you expect your partner to do the things he/she does
16. YOU GOSSIP ABOUT YOUR PARTNER
Talking ill about your partner with others is a sign you no longer respect your partner
17. YOU DON’T SEEK YOUR PARTNER’S OPINION
If you respect your partner you will work with your partner in decision making
18. YOU USE THE KIDS TO FIGHT YOUR PARTNER
When you take your partner for granted you use anything to fight your partner, even your children
19. YOU WISH YOUR PARTNER HARM
Have you stopped wishing your partner well, no longer are you happy for him/her?
20. YOU ARE CONSTANTLY SEEKING WRONG OR BLAME
If you are always on the look out for mistakes your partner commits, magnifying your partner’s wrong, then you are taking your partner for granted. Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs
21. YOU PHYSICALLY ABUSE YOUR PARTNER
Valuing your partner means no physical harm
22. YOU FORGET SPECIAL DATES
If you forget the Anniversary, your partner’s birthday or a day that means alot to your partner you are taking your partner for granted. What is important you remember
23. YOU EASILY CANCEL ON YOUR PARTNER
If you easily change plans you made with your partner and cancel so casually, you are losing respect for your partner
24. YOU END CALLS TOO CASUALLY
If you no longer end a phone call with your partner in a way that shows care, warmth and evokes smiles, check how you view your partner
25. YOU LIE
A lying tongue is a sign you no longer hold your partner in high esteem
26. YOU CHEAT
This is the greatest sign you take your partner for granted. You’ve lowered the value of your partner to the point you betray and have an affair
