It is quite wrong to see your wife as a “liability” or “burden,” because in the real sense, every financial responsibility in the marriage is meant to be carried by you, the husband. Obviously, you should have this understanding before marriage, and pray to Allah to make it easy for you.
If the reason you are searching for a “Working Class Lady” is to share financial responsibilities in the marriage, then you are changing the narrative, and that is very dangerous. As a leader, try to take the financial commitment, especially when you have. This is the best way to stamp your authority in the union. Men love respect in marriage, and one of the ways to get it is by being responsible.
“I need a man that will carry my load”, this statement scares men, “load”, what could it be? Instead of bringing load to the table, why don’t you talk about your value? Our society does not have program for widows and divorcees, even single sisters, so the fact that every marriage is faced with two things; Death or Divorce, is enough to bring adjustable postures, it then means we need to have something doing lawfully especially when your partner or parent is no more available.
It is not advisable to allow women work outside the home, but our environment has thrown up a lot of issues that is making women take responsibility men should have taken. A divorced woman once told me she has four children in the university, and the ex husband is not forthcoming with the financial commitment. If this woman does not have something doing, it might not be easy to take care of these children. We are going to have functional benefits if we all take roles and responsibilities seriously.
Always pay attention to details.
Abu Sheikh
