Have you wondered why women who live outside the continent talk about ‘rights?”’ They are preaching (Western) rights in a marriage as they mean sharing property, custody of children, and the right to exit the marriage. If you observe, they are quick to recommend divorce because it comes with benefit. In the real sense, rights mean freedom, independence, etc. to these women.
Tell a sister in this environment about plural marriage, and then she talks about divorce. Partners in marriage are entitled to equal rights in this environment. It seems there is no difference among the father, mother and children, they all have rights, by extension freedom to do whatever, a child can say; ‘I want to be a gay’, then, the society condones, ‘that is his right’, but what about responsibility?
Responsibility in marriage is often tied to a couple’s identified roles, duties, skills, interests, and time. In this type of marriage, it is governed by divine rules; where the man is the leader, and the wife is the follower. Here, we talk about submission, obedience, respect, loyalty, support etc, it is all about responsibility.
The husband is practically in a position of authority and leadership. In fact, the husband is not in that position by rights or freedom, Allah placed him there. Any attempt to fight, spurn, or resist him to lead, it could result to sin. Have you heard that ingratitude and disobedience to one’s husband can attract Jahannam. The best decision for a woman is to choose a leader in a man that she can respect.
Always pay attention to details.
Abu Sheikh
